If someone comes to you with a story of sexual assault, you have the opportunity to get them the help, support and justice they need. How you react and respond to a survivor coming to you for help could potentially shape their future. If you’re looking for advice on how best to help a victim of sexual assault, start here.
Show Your Support
The stress of being sexually assaulted means that your friend or loved one is in crisis mode. Provide your support as much as possible to help them regain their equilibrium during this difficult time. Express out loud that you believe them and that you are there to protect and support them.
Then, engage in active listening. Allow your friend to express their emotions without interrupting, doubting or blaming them for what happened. Avoid asking too many probing questions. Listen without judgment, allowing the victim to share their feelings at their own pace.
Try to avoid touching the victim, even for a gentle pat or hug, without their permission. Don’t be afraid to ask your friend what kind of support they want and need from you. Keep in mind their needs may change with time. When they’re ready, encourage your loved one to get the professional care they need.
Ensure the Victim’s Health and Safety
Sexual assault victims are strongly encouraged to go to designated health care facilities for forensic sexual assault exams as soon as possible. Your friend should avoid changing their clothing or bathing/showering until this exam has been completed, if possible. Offer to drive your friend to the hospital for this exam. If they wish, you can remain with them in the exam room for support.
Get Help
You should not be a sexual assault victim’s only source of aid. In an emergency, encourage your friend to call the police. Involving law enforcement can be overwhelming, but it’s an important step for bringing the perpetrator to justice. The sooner your friend contacts the police, the stronger the case against the perpetrator will likely be due to the availability of evidence.
A sexual assault survivor should also speak to a trained therapist, psychiatrist or another professional for trauma therapy when they are ready. Give your friend resources to steer them in the right direction, such as the number for the confidential sexual assault hotline (1-800-656-4673) or the information of sexual assault trauma therapists in your area. Encourage medical care, as needed, as well.
Empower the Survivor
While what comes next is ultimately up to the sexual assault victim, you can help empower them to make the best decisions about what steps to take. Although you should avoid trying to give too much advice or being controlling, you can gently direct your friend to report the incident and take the steps necessary to seek justice. This includes talking to a sexual assault attorney in Illinois.
When the survivor is ready to take legal action, tell them to contact the Mahoney Law Firm for a free and completely confidential consultation. We will speak to your loved one in detail about a potential case. They may be eligible for financial compensation for their pain and suffering, medical expenses, psychological care, and more. Filing a civil suit can bring your loved one the justice and closure they deserve. Our phone number is (618) 717-4115.
